tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post7239379886647506346..comments2024-03-29T02:16:01.130-05:00Comments on Blessed to Be: 8 Ways in Which Adoption and Pregnancy are Similar Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-59212319090962182522014-06-04T10:38:43.226-05:002014-06-04T10:38:43.226-05:00Yes, very true! It's a bummer that becoming pa...Yes, very true! It's a bummer that becoming parents thru adoption and becoming parents thru conception aren't viewed equally in our culture. Adoption certainly has different challenges, but it doesn't make it a less desirable way to build a family in my opinion. All little ones need love, no matter if you grew 'em or adopted 'em, ya know? Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-91230050419022959202014-06-04T10:34:52.101-05:002014-06-04T10:34:52.101-05:00Yes, I love that term! Whether you're pregnant...Yes, I love that term! Whether you're pregnant OR you're waiting with an agency, you're expecting in my opinion. :) I sure was hoping adoption would be easier, and I think in some ways it still is... especially knowing with almost certainty that there will be a baby on the other side of this long adoption wait, whereas with infertility, you never quite know if it'll happen. But there are certainly struggles and mega-emotions too! Thanks for reading!Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-48219721462026641102014-06-04T10:31:53.980-05:002014-06-04T10:31:53.980-05:00Thank you! :)Thank you! :)Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-75187342592994485442014-06-04T10:31:31.494-05:002014-06-04T10:31:31.494-05:00I love your friend's explanation. It's so ...I love your friend's explanation. It's so true! Some of us will have it easy and some of us will have it really rough. It's hard not to be jealous of those who have it easy, though. :P<br /><br />I just called our agency yesterday and told them we're all set to go!! I didn't ask if they were working with any birthmoms now though... I was too afraid of the answer. Ha! I'm a chicken, apparently. Anyway, I told them we're going on a trip next week (a mission trip with my youth group) and as soon as we're back, we're ready! Wows!! Let's do this! :D<br /><br />SOOOO excited that you finished your profile! And that you are SO close to being on the waiting list! Wahoo!!!! I'd love to see your profile if you don't mind sharing. I bet it's fantastic!Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-70277550543107048162014-06-04T10:28:37.144-05:002014-06-04T10:28:37.144-05:00ALL the feelings!! I'm so happy you connected ...ALL the feelings!! I'm so happy you connected with everything we've written here. Thank you for such positive feedback. :) I especially love that our last point really hit home for you, because it means you're on the other side of all the adoption pain. So happy you have your little guy!Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-59125945319482769742014-06-04T10:27:21.558-05:002014-06-04T10:27:21.558-05:00Absolutely! When you don't match or when a mat...Absolutely! When you don't match or when a match falls through, it really feels like a loss. All the plans you've been making in your mind for your future are gone in an instant. And all the purchases you've made for your possible little one are just reminders of what you don't have. Adoption is surely not easy, but hopefully worth it! And yes, that anxiety is terrible!! Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-34111261074502164112014-06-03T19:42:49.699-05:002014-06-03T19:42:49.699-05:00I think it's great you highlighted some of the...I think it's great you highlighted some of the similarities, especially since it seems like most of the culture consiously or unconsciously regards adoption as a second class way to build a family.Mike Brummondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15276797377377334510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-2769063117663897432014-06-03T15:09:27.438-05:002014-06-03T15:09:27.438-05:00Great post! Some of our friends call adoption &quo...Great post! Some of our friends call adoption "Paper Pregnancy," which seems to fit your description. While I part of me expects adoption to be easier than infertility, I am trying to stay realistic. Thanks for sharing your experiences. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04299992025215585620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-14892956308711182022014-06-02T14:50:47.923-05:002014-06-02T14:50:47.923-05:00Love this! Our friends who have adopted three chil...Love this! Our friends who have adopted three children said that they like to think of the adoption process as their "labor." So they explained to us, "some people have really difficult pregnancies, morning sickness and then horrible long labor followed by a c-section...sometimes the adoption process is painful like that, sometimes it's long, sometimes it falls through, various things can happen but that's our labor"....not exact quote but something along those lines! Anyhoo, it's June! Are you guys officially on the list now? I finally finished our profile book that took me forever and a day and sent it to our agency this morning to be approved. It's all approved and I'm sending it off to be printed this evening. Then we will be officially on the list, hooray!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-11496492040991033492014-06-01T23:11:25.721-05:002014-06-01T23:11:25.721-05:00I am going to have to read this again, because thi...I am going to have to read this again, because this post is JUST. THAT. GOOD!!!!! The post nails the emotions and progress perfectly! Especially that moment where you meet your baby and it is just SO.WORTH.IT!!! I balled. I remembered that feeling. ALL the feelings. <br />I cannot love this post enough! Phenomenal! Great! Brilliant! Must.Be.SHARED!!! :-DAll in His Perfect Timinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00300978285191861049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4753193842106749410.post-21473158459986686612014-06-01T20:31:46.295-05:002014-06-01T20:31:46.295-05:00I experienced that stomach turn and heart in throa...I experienced that stomach turn and heart in throat that 24 hours we waited to hear about that potential adoption situation. The anxiety was intense. The sadness of not being chosen was just as intense. It hurts. When we tried adoption the first time and we knew a expectant mom was looking at our profile and we got the call that she chose another couple...I was inconsolable. I did get my hopes up. Now on this new journey...when we weren't chosen...I didn't cry. I was sad, I felt rejected but I guess I just have been through this too many times before...now I'm not surprised. I never thought about not getting chosen as a loss...So much to deal with whether pregnant or adopting huh?prayerfuljourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15549430693172260600noreply@blogger.com